STYLE
ON VULNERABILITY, GRATITUDE & CONTENDEDNESS
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LEARNINGS I CONTINUE TO STAND AND LIVE BY:
1. Allow the uncomfortable luxury of changing our
mind. We are much like a moving river, we spill and mingle as water. We are not one person defined by time or any earthy name or construct; we are the collections of everything and everyone we have ever loved. Once said that fluid reflections keeps a solid center. After we see more, go deeper and invest more time on processing everything that we have experienced, it is okay to have different opinions about a topic, an ideology, or, above all, about yourself. We need to embrace the unfamiliarity of changing, hoping that it changes for the better, we change for the better. Improving… as growth is the evidence of life, that we have lived. 2. Count our blessings, be humble and kind, always. Remember to be grateful. Be generous. To understand and be understood. To lift people up, not lower them down. To forgive, forgive, forgive. And then forgive again. Forgiving ourselves and forgiving others. Don't hold grudges, since bitterness keeps you from flying. And never take for granted the love this life has given. Appreciate everything and everyone that come and bring values to our life. When we get where we are going, don't forget to turn back around and help the next one in line. Be kind always, do not have the intention to hurt another being. It costs nothing to be kind and our kindness may be priceless for someone else. Always choose the kindness thing to do. 3. Leverage our vulnerability. Feel the fear, have courage, dear heart. Exposing ourselves to that fear in order to leverage our vulnerability. Take that ownership of what we are afraid of doing and mold the final outcome to suit our needs. When we open ourselves up to the possibility of rejection, failure, criticism, or heartbreak, we are also opening ourselves up to chance and, again, growth. It also lets us to have opportunities such as relationships, networks and ideas, which we may have missed out. Learn to conquer our fears, we never know what the real outcome may be unless we give it a try. 4. Expect anything worthwhile to take time. I've been a rush-y person, I like everything to go fast, instant. But, it's hard to better capture something so fundamental yet so impatiently overlooked in our culture of immediacy. Overnight success is just a myth, as well as a reminder that success needs serious returning. Pushing things to work out quickly would lead to mess. It is okay to choose slow living instead of fast living. To walk slow instead of running. Small steps are steps, too. Just like a flower, it doesn't go from bud to blossom in one spritely burst. We are too concerned with the “blooming” word as it is the final result when its true meaning is "the whole process". The real magic unfolds slowly in the making of one's character and destiny. 5. How we spend our days is how we spend our lives. Annie Dillard, in her beautiful book "The Writing Life" says "How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives." Be present, enjoy what makes life worth living at the moment. The secret to enjoy the present is to be fully awake to everything about around us. I may say I am a planner, I make schedules and I am a big believer in being mindful of how to spend my time. But, we don't always have to be in the chase of the meaning of life all the time. The meaning of our life is nothing more - and nothing less - than whatever story we choose to tell ourselves. To keep the balance in our live and decide whatever is important to us. Because life has the meaning that we give it. As long as I am spending my days doing things I enjoy - and that has positive impacts on other people for my friends, my family, or whether it is writing something that might set off a positive ripple effects in someone's life, then I will inevitably end up spending my life in a way I can look back on and be content with when I reach the end of my journey. |
This post marked as the last post in this
devastating year for the world we share. As a closing, I would like to reflect,
perhaps best thought as a resolution in reverse, on what I have learned in the
past two years after I decided to blog again. This
blog has been largely notes to myself, a public record of what I privately
think and feel and worry and wonder about daily. A distillation of the most
important things I have experienced and learned about living while reading and
writing my way through life, which may or may not be useful to others. The whole writings in this blog are mostly my
personal exercises in processing my own life and annealing my own thoughts
which I celebrate in writing. After all, we are made of the same stuff. To
find that beauty that makes life livable. And here I will leave it as it stands: there are infinitely many kinds of beautiful lives.
The beauty of mine, you of yours.
❤
xx
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