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THE YEAR 2020, THE MOMENTS & LESSONS TO CHERISH
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THE MOMENTS & LESSONS TO CHERISH IN 2020 On 10th of April, Angga and I had our wedding ceremony. We had it very intimate, a Balinese ceremony with only around 30 guests, all were family. A tiny wedding was not what we had planned. We could not say how much we dreamed to cheer our marriage with our beloved friends together. My brother could not fly from Australia to Bali because all flights were cancelled due to the current situation of the pandemic. Missing a lot of our most-important-people in our lives is definitely not ideal but we do not want to put anyone at risk, so we postpone our reception dinner (until unknown, maybe never). Even though there were many adjustment here and there, our little sacred wedding turned out to be just as beautiful as of what we could ever imagine of. I am beyond grateful for everything. Many adventures await (and plot twist... life is full of surprises, don't you agree?) and I am so excited to share it with the man I said yes to. Also, Angga is making himself the best combination of a friend, a husband and a partner that I have never dared to expect in my life. 2. The Different Stages of Life During the pandemic, travel is restricted and almost everything goes online. The way to keep in touch with my close friends and families are by chats and calls. Sometimes a light chit-chat talking about random stuff, other times deep conversations about what's going on in each other's life. We spend more times scrolling and tapping on screen, peeking into other people stories and interactions shared on the media. I am happy for one of my friends master graduation, delighted to hear about another who is on her study abroad pursuing her dream, excited about my friend's new business in the middle of this plight and can’t be more joyful for my friend's wedding next week. Yes, there are different stages of life with each one-of-a-kind experience that we will go through in this journey we have in this world. One just successfully delivered a beautiful baby or in the waiting of their little ones. One is blossoming in a new relationship, or painfully ending one yet doing very well moving on. One just got engaged or married with their loved ones, or others are grieving of the loss of family, friends. One enjoying their next education phase or forming the career they have been dreaming for, one is happily building a family. It is humane, to adore or, maybe, envy someone's life progresses or achievements. But one important thing to remember is that we have our own stages, our own path, that we have to live in this life. And how beautiful it is to normalize cheering each other, stop seeing each other as competition, but rather a source of inspiration. Transforming any feeling of envy or negativity into motivational drive to do just as well for ourselves, that we are worthy of growth, too. 3. The Solace in Myself Another beautiful lesson I acknowledge is about finding solace in myself. It might sound cliché but this is the greatest form of love that someone could ever have in their entire life. At first I thought that self-love is achieved and then it’s done, but as I understand more about it, it is more of a dynamic motion which we must put consistent effort into it in everyday life. As I learned about this concept of self-love and acceptance, I accept myself as I am. And right now here I am, as full, as whole and as contented as I can be with my own self. Laughing at every stupid decisions I made and stop giving my energy into indifferent things or people. Embracing my flaws, my insecurities, my joys and blessings. Learning to be better and give room for myself to change and improve as well. Keeping faith in myself, to be as kind and magical as I can be, as I was this whole time. To learn to respond instead of reacting, to be mindful, pause, then consider a thoughtful compassionate response. To be wiser in the times of necessity. |
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has been a long time also I have been away from blog, as always. It
also has been a long time since I went out for lunch. 2020 has been so fast paced
and now it's already September. I don't have to remind you, you all know the
pandemic has been around for almost a year, around the world, and we are still
unsure when this whole quarantine situation will end. All news about
the pandemic break my heart. Fears, worries, anxieties fill our
everyday life in so many different levels. People are dying, losing their job
or separated from their loved one. There are also delays of schedule
and postponed goals, many stops and pauses.
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2020 is no one’s favorite year, but there were still some highlighted moments these past months this year that I would like to cherish. With three more months counting, I hope you also have your own moments and lessons to grasp and keep closest to your heart. It is indeed a difficult year, life is never easy anyway. If we must stand unshakeable to our faith more than ever, maybe this is the time. To always discover our self and our values again and again, reflecting on how we have survive and thrive this far, I wish we can find the light we need in our own self to hold on.
❤
xx
...
2020 is no one’s favorite year, but there were still some highlighted moments these past months this year that I would like to cherish. With three more months counting, I hope you also have your own moments and lessons to grasp and keep closest to your heart. It is indeed a difficult year, life is never easy anyway. If we must stand unshakeable to our faith more than ever, maybe this is the time. To always discover our self and our values again and again, reflecting on how we have survive and thrive this far, I wish we can find the light we need in our own self to hold on.
❤
xx
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