MOTHERHOOD
TELL ME, HOW DOES IT FEEL TO BE A MOTHER? THREE VALUABLE LESSONS I LEARNED FROM MY DAUGHTER.
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1. The Greatest Love of All Among all forms of love that I've experienced and received, with all their greatness, learning to love yourself is indeed the greatest form of love. I remember that my mother used to sing me this song by Whitney Houston to me when I was a child, too, and I've been struggling to learn about self-love this whole time in my life. But, when I am holding my own daughter, I finally understand completely this greatest from of love. To be broken, to be vulnerable, to build again, to stand up again. Whatever people take from you, they will never take your dignity. And to have that kind of strength and understanding in one-self, it's a diligent practice for a lifetime. And I promise to pass this lesson to my daughter as well: learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all. 2. Never Lose That Hope in Your Eyes I love the sparkle in my daughter's eyes. When she sees me or her father, she engage with the family, she learns new things, her eyes light up. And maybe that's one way to see things in life, like seeing though the eyes of a child. As we also in the journey of long-life-learning to live and understand living, I hope that the light in my eyes will always be bright and filled with hope, just like your eyes, my darling. And I hope you live a life full of wonder, always. Never lose that hope in your eyes. 3. To Be Fully Present is the Best Gift The last lessons, which I think is the most valuable lessons that hits me hard is to be present. All this time I am thinking more of the future, I plan, I structure, I make long-term goals that I am to much for tomorrow than I am today, than I am right now. I forget that enjoying what I have right now is also as important as my future plans, my future dreams. To live for the future would be to miss the point everlastingly. Yes, I have dreams that I still want to make come true, but spending my time with her is a time I would not trade for anything else. And it doesn't matter how much I am worrying about giving the best future for my daughter, I will give my best to give her the best "present." As to be fully present for them, is one of the best gift you can give to people you truly love. |
“Your
children are not your children,
they
are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself,
they
come through you but not from you,
and
though they are with you, yet they belong not to you,
you
may give them your love but not your thoughts,
for
they have their own thoughts.
you
may house their bodies but not their souls,
for
their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which
you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.”
-
Kahlil Gibran
...
On my daughter's first birthday, I also celebrate myself being a mother. Mixed feelings. Mainly filled with joy and gratefulness of course, watching your baby growing is one of the fulfilling moment one can have in their lives. But I felt overwhelmed also, that time move this fast and this precious moments wont last forever. We teach our children with the best that we have but we didn't really realized that as parents, we also learn so much from them. And in my first year of being a mother I realized 3 important things which I tend to ignore the whole time. 3 lessons that I would cherish for my self, also share and pass to her when she gets older. This is a love letter to my daughter. Also a note for me to always remember. Last year, I asked to my self how does it feel to be a mother, and I would like to answer to that question myself. It's life-changing, and I am still learning.
❤️
xx
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